March 13, 2005
Love & dating...33I don't think any one of us likes confrontations. To begin with, it is emotionally unsettling and distressing and often leads to stress and tension afterwards. If we have a choice at all, why would we choose to be confrontational with someone? Especially not with someone we care about.
Maybe, put it this way. To say a person is confrontational is not really to say that he/she enjoys putting others in a state of being confronted. It's more he/she has a tendency to confront problems. Unfortunately, a problem is the result of the interaction between the persons. How nice it would be if one can confront the problem by oneself and solve it without having to involve another! Then again, sometimes, we run away from our own personal problems too.
Talking to a problem is simple; talking about a problem is not; talking about a problem between us is a feat. But, is that why we have to choose to sweep it aside and pretend it doesn't exist?
The ostrich hides its head in the ground because it thinks that if it can't see the world, the world can't see it too. But, what a shock it got when it pulled its head up from the ground! Not only is the world still around, the world is taking lotsa photographs! If the ostrich really disliked the crowd, it should have just chased the crowd away with its size.
Confront the problem, not the person. It's a skill. Unfortunately, it takes the right kind of person to practise this skill with. Some people get ready their armour to fight their ally, even before the battle comes.
Posted by 杏 cy （Jancy） at 12:56